Jaron's Story

Nobody Ever Told Me

by Jaron

As a teenager, because of my home situation and medical conditions, I would go to school very insecure. My insecurities would compel me to look at everybody around me as if I was the only one with problems. Peer pressure became powerful, and led me to make decisions about sex that a child shouldn’t have to make on their own. Without proper guidance or knowledge of the truth, at the age of fifteen I gave up my virginity. Not knowing my value or worth, I continued to have sex with different partners from 15 to the age of 22.

At 22 you could say that I came to a fork in the road. I realized I’d been chasing my manhood for seven years, thinking that hooking up with as many women as I could would somehow make me a man. Suddenly it hit me that it wasn’t working. I hadn’t caught my manhood—I was still a boy—running scared from relationship to relationship, risking life and death for momentary pleasure. I had to start over; I could choose life or death, pleasure or truth. Thankfully, I chose life and truth.

Through the years of sexual promiscuity, I contracted curable STDs (thankfully they were curable), picked up emotional baggage, had multiple pregnancy scares, and many broken relationships that I regret. Out of all of that, I think the hardest part is the emotional baggage. Nobody ever told me that I had a choice in the matter. I didn’t think that there were real consequences to having more than one sexual partner, but there are. I have women to compare my wife to, anger issues, anxiety problems, guilt, and the scars of memories that plague me in my relationship with my wife everyday. I WISH SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME THE TRUTH ABOUT EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE, BECAUSE CONDOMS DIDN’T PROTECT MY HEART.

I am now a husband, father, musician, and public speaker who shares his life story and the truth about sex, relationships, and making the right choices, with teens every day. Through my experiences, I learned that once something’s done it’s done, you can never go back and undo it. Other people don’t make choices for you, so you can’t blame anyone else for your mistakes. What you can do is challenge others to learn from your mistakes, so that they don’t repeat them.