Sex is...
Good?
"Of course it’s good. And it’s natural. It’s how we all got here."
Bad?
"I was raped and want nothing to do with sex ever again."
Dirty?
"I’m so ashamed of all the guys I’ve been with—I feel dirty."
Great?
"Sex is the best part of life—why not live to the fullest?"
Scary?
"I don’t know if I’m ready to be that vulnerable with someone."
Necessary?
"I can’t live without it!"
No Big Deal?
"Why does everyone make it into such a big thing? It’s not…"
Relaxing?
"Sometimes you just need to."
Fun?
"We do it at parties all the time."
Gross?
"I’m too young to even know what it is…"
Dangerous?
"I’m scared of STDs and pregnancy."
Awkward?
"No one told me it wasn’t like the movies."
Loving?
"I only do it with people I’m committed to."
THE TRUTH?
Sex is the most powerful thing anyone can do.
Here's why:
One act,
done one time,
with one person
can do the three most powerful things:
1. Create Life
2. Cause Death
3. Build Emotional and Spiritual Bonds
Sex is supposed to be good — if it didn’t feel good, would our media be so obsessed with it?
But if it’s supposed to be so good, then why are so many people feeling dirty, abused, and depressed over it?
It’s also supposed to be an expression of love—but some people say it doesn’t have to be.
What’s really true?
Because sex is so powerful, deciding to have sex is not just a question of using protection or avoiding STDs. It’s a question of truth. The power of sex doesn’t make it good or bad—but rather the context in which one has sex:
Context # 1
A one night stand (or hook-up)
Casual sex (even one time, but especially with multiple partners) is dangerous because of the increased risk in STIs/STDs and unintended pregnancy, as well as the emotional and mental baggage that can result from bonding yourself with another person, or multiple people. While what you do with your body doesn’t determine your worth as a person, hooking up often leaves people feeling a degree of emptiness or being degraded.
Context # 2
A committed relationship
Sex with someone you care about is said to be a beautiful experience. This can be true, but there is still the risk of pregnancy, STIs/STDs (from a former partner), and an emotional break up. Losing your virginity to a person you care for and then break up with is complicated, and can often lead to emotional baggage down the road.
Context #3
Marriage
Sex inside of a long-term, monogamous relationship like marriage is shown to be the safest, most fulfilling kind of sex, even according to recent research and surveys. Why? Because the bond that is created between partners is supposed to be “till death do us part,” not divorce. While marriage requires hard work, and is not always about sex, partners who are 100% committed to a faithful relationship have more trust-based sex—which (for men and women) ends up being the BEST sex ever.
Ever wonder: "But why marriage?"